The question of how to date is a major concern for both teenagers and senior single adults alike. For the senior daters, the purpose of dating is to get married.
Irrespective of one's dating experience, whether you are coming to the dating game newly or coming back after a breakup or you are an active player in the dating game park, well able to maintain several dating partners, there are great dating ideas and strategies you can use to enhance your experience.
It must be stated though that there are no hard and fast rules. All principles and techniques get better with practice. The following guidelines would help though:
1. Prepare for dating. To win in the dating game as in other games of life, you must be ready for commitment to work at your game. Think about the soccer player and all the hours he or she has to put in getting ready, training, running, trials etc. To be crowned with success in any game, feeble minded approach would never work. You have to put effort at the game - what do you want, what plans do you make, consider winning and losing as inevitable outcomes. Decide not keep playing until you win.
2. Grooming. Start a programme of looking the best you can. Get into shape by regular physical fitness activity. Follow a health programme of exercising and eating right. Pay attention to your hair grooming. Haircut and style that fit and make you feel happy and boosts your self-confidence. When you are confident, people would notice you, adore and desire to be with you.
3. Change your wardrobe. Go do some shopping and get some new wears. Rearrange your image to fit the person you think you are. Do not try to be like anybody else, just the you that you see in your mind's eye. Portray this person in the best light.
4. Establish an objective and target date. What do you want to achieve in this dating and when do you hope to reach that objective. Can you envisage marriage for you within one or two years? If so, then you have date like someone who desires marriage. This is where the need to date in a morally clean manner is critical. If you establish boundaries of morality, then it would be easy to make the other partner to make an early decision about you and your objective instead of hanging on for other reasons such as free sexual favours.
5. Spend time among support groups. Your aim is to meet other single people with a view to get a marriage partner. Stay around this group. Don't stay much around married people or those who are cynical about love and relationships. Attend social activities involving single people. Join choir groups, clubs, societies, sports events, and drama groups - any association that can help you meet the kind of people in the same shoes with you who could be prospective partners. You need to be out there to meet people.
6. Be prepared to take a break. Our best efforts do not always work out. If after making your best efforts things are not working out as you desire, you may start having dating exhaustion. Take a break and reassess and recommit. Remember, it is a game and sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. If all the soccer clubs stop playing when they lose a series of matches, the game would have been killed by this time.
7. Have fun. Prepare and do actually enjoy every bit of your dating outing for what it is - a chance to meet people and socialize. If you keep it simple and straight to the point, you have nothing to lose even when it does not come to the desired objective of marriage. What spoils our dating experiences is when we break boundaries and start partaking of activities reserved for married couples such as sexual intercourse. This is what makes breakups so painful. But if you date appropriately, whatever end you get in a dating relationship is fun and builds friendships and respect and honor for you.
8. Do not be too available. Monotony kills enthusiasm, they say. Never make yourself easily accessible to your date. Have your own life and be sure to live it while dating. We all enjoy mystery and puzzle and the adventure of the chasing game when dating. As a way of keeping up the mystery, do not have sexual intercourse with your date. The day you do, there is nothing to pursue again and the game is over. The harder the chase, the better the prize. Real love - beyond chemistry and ego - grow slowly. If you sustain the mystery, there is a chance for love to blossom and emotional bonding can be established.
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